“Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.  He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday.”  ~Psalm 37:5-6

Have you ever been misjudged by a friend? 

It’s difficult, isn’t it?  It can leave you feeling hurt, disappointed, and frustrated as you search for answers and solutions.  But the Word says that if we are careful to “commit our ways to the Lord” and “trust also in Him”, He is faithful to bring forth truth and light into every situation or circumstance in our lives.

 I have found, in my personal relationships, that true friendship takes work!  And yes, you will sometimes be misjudged and misunderstood.  It’s during those times when we have to re-commit our relationships to the Lord and trust that He will bring forth truth and understanding.  However, let me caution you…. When a problem arises in a relationship that you know for certain is true friendship, we should always begin with a little self-reflection. 

In my relationships, if a friend seems “distant” or “detached”, I always examine myself first and ask these questions: 

1. When did I notice my friend “distancing herself/himself from me?  

2. Can I “pinpoint” anything – intentional or unintentional – that may have caused my friend hurt or disappointment? 

3. What should my response be? 

I NEVER automatically assume that the “issue” is hers alone.  Instead, I open myself completely to God to be examined by His eye and ask that He give me divine revelation into what’s going on.  Most of the time, God will show me exactly when the problem began and I am able to pray about my response.  

When I’ve been hurt or misjudged by a friend, I usually find myself “pulling back” to create a little space until I can either “pray through to victory” or talk to my friend without being ”the victim”.  When I feel that a friend is distancing herself from me, I usually go to that person and ask if I’ve done anything to cause the “rift”.  

I believe in “taking the high road”. Most offenses – especially between friends – are completely unintentional.   

However, there are times when it’s absolutely necessary to talk to your friend – with a right spirit – in order to work out the misunderstanding. 

No matter the situation or the offense, it is vitally important that we, as Christian brothers and sisters, work out our misunderstandings and differences so that we can move forward in the awesome things God has planned for our lives.  So I encourage you today, if you’ve been struggling in any of the relationships in your life,  self-evaluate first.  Then, be open to hear God’s voice for the path you need to take in order to bring healing and restoration.

If you keep your heart right, commit your ways to the Lord, and trust in Him, He is faithful to shine His light into every situation in your life. 

Go to Him with your burdens;  give Him permission to show you truth; and be willing to obey whatever He tells you to do.  He’ll ”bring forth your righteousness as the light” and pour His healing out in your frienships! 

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